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Raymond John Michaelis Obituary


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“Devon, Brenden, and Nancy, Our thoughts and prayers are with you now. We fondly remember Ray and how motivated, thoughtful, and kind he was when he...Read More »
1 of 14 | Posted by: Ellie Adams

“we miss you ..... ”
2 of 14 | Posted by: marie

“Elizabeth and family, So sorry to hear of Ray's passing last night from a friend. As in the past, his strength and determination will always serve...Read More »
3 of 14 | Posted by: Lidia Masslon - Tolland, CT

“My condolences to the Michaelis family. Praying for strength and peace at this trying time. God bless. ”
4 of 14 | Posted by: Geysey B. Andino

“Elizabeth, I was so sorry to hear of the passing of your remarkable brother, Raymond. I also lost my dear brother, Michael, when he was far too...Read More »
5 of 14 | Posted by: Anita Scopino - Simsbury, CT

“My condolences to Elizabeth and to the entire Michaelis family for the loss of your loved one. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers. ”
6 of 14 | Posted by: Joseph Sikora - Hartford, CT

“On behalf of the Sanchez community we want to extend our condolences on this sad moment in your family's life. Sincerely ”
7 of 14 | Posted by: Myrella Lara - colleague

“We were said to hear of "Uncle Ray's " passing. We know he was deeply cared for by his neice Ryanne and her husband Justin and all the family. ...Read More »
8 of 14 | Posted by: Carole and Gary Fulton

“My condolences to the family. You are in my prayers especially Ms. Michaelis. May God grant the serenity and peace you need and deserve at this time...Read More »
9 of 14 | Posted by: Iris B. Caraballo - Hartford, CT

“I an so sorry for the loss of your brother. My prayers are with the family. ”
10 of 14 | Posted by: Iris B. Caraballo - Friend

“I am so very sorry for your loss. Ray was a great guy and fun to be around in High School. My most recent conversation with Ray, was last summer...Read More »
11 of 14 | Posted by: Dawn McGowan

“I had the pleasure to meet Ray when I drove him to his daughter's school concert. We shared so many laughs. I learned of his wit that evening and...Read More »
12 of 14 | Posted by: Alice Rodrigues and family

“We would like to exprees our deepest sympathy and condolences to the Michaelis fmily. When we moved in next door to Ray ten years ago, Ray was a...Read More »
13 of 14 | Posted by: James Kallal - Farmington, CT

“My heartfelt thoughts and prayers are with you all at this difficult time. Ray was always kind to me and always welcomed me with the family. I will...Read More »
14 of 14 | Posted by: Buzz Gagne - Enfield, CT - Friend


Raymond John Michaelis passed away at his home on July 28, 2011 after a long courageous battle with brain cancer. Ray was the seventh child and only son of Raymond A. Michaelis and Ann K. Michaelis of Farmington. He graduated as Salutorian from Farmington High School, and received several recognitions for his accomplishments in art and writing. He then graduated from the University of Rhode Island with degrees in mathematics and computer science. Ray was first diagnosed with brain cancer in 1989. He was the Chief Financial Officer and Treasurer of CT Life Insurance Company until his cancer returned in 1991. Following two surgeries, radiation, and a bone marrow transplant, Ray not only survived but lived cancer-free for eighteen years. In 1994, Ray was an honoree of the Hartford Courant's Volunteer Recognition Program. As a member of the Going Forward Cancer Support Group at Hartford Hospital, Ray established its first newsletter and a library of books and information for cancer patients. He also volunteered for the Road to Recovery Program and diligently drove cancer patients to treatment appointments. Ray said, "If the weather's not the best, some people might say, 'I'm not going for treatment today.' I feel like I'm helping someone save their life." When his cancer returned again in 2007, Ray's courage and inner strength to endure additional aggressive medical treatments (two more surgeries, extensive rehabilitation, stereotactic surgery, and chemotherapy) came from his determination to continue to beat the odds and see his children grow-up. Fathering Brenden and Devon through their early years of life served as a long-lasting foundation for each of them. Although cancer placed limitations on Ray's physical abilities, it rarely prevented him from participating in his children's activities and celebrating their achievements. Ray's love of jogging, gardening, vacations at the beach, and family gatherings as well as his sense of humor, blue eyes, and warm smile will forever remain as cherished memories for his family. Along with his parents, Ray leaves behind the greatest joys of his life--his sixteen year old son Brenden and his fourteen year old daughter Devon, and their mother Nancy Michaelis; his siblings Marie Nicksa and her late husband James Nicksa of Hilton Head Island, SC, Kathy Gagne of Cape Coral, FL, Nancy Burke of Enterprise, AL, Susan Michaelis of Enfield, CT, Jane Crowell and her husband Marty of Berlin, CT, and Elizabeth Michaelis and her husband Hon. David Gold of Middlefield, CT; his nephews and nieces Ryanne Bergler and her husband Justin, Christopher Nicksa and his wife Sarah, Alicia Valdez and her husband Grant, Amy Bollen and her husband David, Donny Burke and his wife Niki, Nathan Burke, and nine great-nephews/nieces. The family wishes to extend a heartfelt thank you to Dr. Alexandra Flowers at Hartford Hospital for her extensive medical expertise balanced with compassion and caring, and to Ray's extraordinary caregivers Claudia, Donna, and Ida.

Funeral services will be private. The family will celebrate Ray's life by welcoming guests to his home at 82 Barkledge Drive in Newington, CT on Thursday,4 August 2011, from 1:00-6:00pm. In lieu of flowers, memorial contributions may be made to: Brenden and Devon Michaelis' Education Fund at Farmington Bank, 32 Main St, Farmington, CT 06032. For directions and online condolences, please visit www.taylorandmodeen.com.