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Joan F. (Spencer) Metcalfe

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“My sympathy to Dick for the loss of his lifemate. I remember Joan as a caring and sweet person. We were sorority sislers in high school, Alpha Alpha...Read More »
1 of 13 | Posted by: Lydia Rathbun Littlefield - RI

“i have so many happy memories of sharing recipes with Joan, and working together in several different offices at HCW , laughing, sharing tasks...Read More »
2 of 13 | Posted by: Sharon Shepela - Bolton, MA

“My condolences to Rick and the Metcalfe family Jimmy ”
3 of 13 | Posted by: Jim lynch - West Hartford, CT

“I had the pleasure and honor of working with Joan at HCW. Her warmth and humor will be missed. May she rest in peace. ”
4 of 13 | Posted by: Jaime L. Bradstreet - Seattle, WA

“I am so sorry to hear of Joan's passing. I was so looking forward to seeing her at the next HS reunion. I'll always remember the days at Hall High...Read More »
5 of 13 | Posted by: Joel Salberg - Auburn, ME

“I will never forget our babysitting days and putting together your resume to direct your career ”
6 of 13 | Posted by: carole and stephen volman - CT

“Dear Dick and Family, It was such a joy to be reacquainted with Joan while working on the Class of 1953's 50th reunion. She was such an inspiration...Read More »
7 of 13 | Posted by: Shirley Rossano - Eau Claire, WI

“Our condolences. Many pleasent highschool memories of Joan & Dick will always be remembered. The Class of 1953 expresses many thanks for her time...Read More »
8 of 13 | Posted by: Edward & Joann Mascolo - CT

“What a shock. Fond memories of Alphasorority events,Madison Beach weekSo sorry, Dick and family ”
9 of 13 | Posted by: Joanne Holden Miller - NH

“Chris and Family very sorry for your lost - wish all peace and love.Maritza Montero ”
10 of 13 | Posted by: A friend

“I was so surprised to read about Joan this morning. I have lost track of her over the years,but I have such fond memories of our times together at...Read More »
11 of 13 | Posted by: Gail Champlin - North Canton, CT

“May God bless you and your family Rick at this time of sorrow ”
12 of 13 | Posted by: Frank Ruimerman - Naples, FL

“Our heartfelt sympathies in this, your time of grief. ”
13 of 13 | Posted by: Taylor & Modeen Funeral Home - CT

Joan F. (Spencer) Metcalfe, 77, of Farmington, formerly of West Hartford, died Saturday, December 1, 2012 at home after a courageous battle with breast cancer. She was the wife of Richard E. Metcalfe, Sr. Born in Hartford, the daughter of the late Llewellyn T. Spencer and Mary (Carrier) Spencer, Joan grew up in West Hartford and graduated from the University of Connecticut in 1957. She and Dick married on August 17, 1957 and then spent two years at Fort Bliss in El Paso, TX. Dick and Joan returned to West Hartford in 1960 where they raised their five children. Joan had particularly fond memories and friendships from the years spent on Smallwood Road in West Hartford. Joan worked part-time at Saint Joseph College before taking a position with Hartford College for Women, where she worked 18 years as administrator of the paralegal department. She retired in 2000, two years after the school merged with the University of Hartford. She was a devoted mother and enjoyed her children's activities with a faithful diligence. Joan was a wonderful cook! She was famous for her lasagna, pancakes, and chocolate cake. She enjoyed her bridge club, backgammon, and playing pinochle with the Murphy's. Joan was active with the Insurance City Open golf tournament for a number of years and served as Co-chairlady in the late 60's. She also served as a volunteer with the Visiting Nurse Association Hospice Care, the UConn Health Center and the William H. Hall High School Class of 1953 reunion committee. She was a communicant of the Church of Saint Peter Claver, active with their prayer groups, and a member of the West Hartford Garden Club. Joan enjoyed spending time at Point O' Woods in Old Lyme and after retirement spending winters in Bonita Springs, FL. Besides Dick, she leaves five children and their spouses, Debora M. Doucette and her husband Christopher of Lancaster, MA, Richard E. Metcalfe, Jr. of West Hartford, Gregory B. Metcalfe of Farmington, Brian D. Metcalfe and his wife Cynthia of San Marino, CA, and Christopher T. Metcalfe and his wife Alice of East Hartland; her brother Paul Spencer of New Hampshire and her six grandchildren, Braden Doucette and Avery, Nora, Gunnar, Luke and Katelyn Metcalfe. She also leaves her in-laws Bruce and Carol Metcalfe, Joyce and Ted Pallman, and William Pinchbeck along with many nieces and nephews. She was predeceased by her grandson, Alexander C. Doucette as well as her sisters-in-law, Kristine Pinchbeck and Cynthia Spencer.

A Mass of Christian Burial will be celebrated at 10:00 a.m. on Thursday, December 6, 2012 at the Church of Saint Peter Claver, 47 Pleasant Street, West Hartford. Burial will follow at Fairview Cemetery, West Hartford. Calling hours will be held at the Taylor & Modeen Funeral Home, 136 South Main Street, West Hartford on Wednesday, 5 to 8 p.m. In lieu of flowers, memorial donations may be made to the American Cancer Society, 825 Brook St, I-91 Tech Ctr, Rocky Hill, Connecticut 06067 or the Foundation Fighting Blindness P.O. Box 17279 Baltimore, MD 21297-0495. For directions and online condolences, please visit